Everything we say and do have an impact on our children. According to psychologists, our word and deeds may affect our children’s adulthood. But, do you know why is that so? Children are like sponges; they receive everything.
Their brains are still in development, and they have excess synapses at a rate of about 15,000 synapses a neuron which twice more than adults’ brains.
The things in the environment we are exposed to many times are reinforced in the brain by a lot of neural links to those things. As our parents are the ones, we are mostly exposed to while we are growing up, the way they talk and treat us have a huge impact on us.
In other words, the way our parents talk to us is how we talk to ourselves. If our parents were giving is support and courage, we would do the same to ourselves. And, if they were critical or angry toward us, we would be so hard on ourselves. Why is this important?
The manner in which we talk to ourselves has an influence on our self-confidence, as well as our approach to the life’s mistakes, and how we get over them. That is the reason why every parent should have patience with their children.
The most important thing to do is to show love to your children. In fact, they are just children, and they will make mistakes. So, that is the reason why it is important for your children to feel loved and supported even when they fail. Many parents make mistakes such as thinking that their children just know that they are loved.
However, you should remember they are only kids and do not have the same awareness as adults do. Children cannot always notice when their parents show love to each other. And, that is the reason why expression of love should be obvious.
The best gift you can give to your children is when you talk to them, do it with a lot of love. This way, they will learn how to love themselves.
What You Should Not Say to Your Child
1. “Stop crying immediately!”
Children have the same right as you do, to feel whatever they are feeling. Instead of yelling at them, you should try giving them a hug, and ask about the reason of their sadness.
2. “Why is it so hard to do _____?”
This way, you make your children feel unworthy, and useless as if they are not capable of anything. So, try showing them how to do something in the right way. Make them believe that you have faith that they are going to show better results next time.